Imperfection is Sexy
It’s been way too long since my last blog and I’m really mad at myself. I made a promise to write one blog every week. (The only exception was when I was on vacation. Sadly, I was not on vacation.) Forgetfulness or laziness or both got the better of me. I do not know if you are like me when you do hit your goals, but it stinks; and right now, I feel like I failure.
Perfection is hard. Maybe too hard? Do I set myself up for failure when I make my goals too hard to reach? Aren’t you supposed to? Are we not supposed to be the best we can be? Isn’t this the point? If I make my goals too easy, am I learning anything? Am I just settling? How the heck can imperfection be sexy?
Okay, I metaphor just popped into my mind. It’s a cool one and it begins with a short story.
I’m sitting in my first year Psych 101 class. I’m one of five hundred or so students crammed into a stuffy auditorium. I do not remember if I was eager to learn or just hungry, but I do remember something stirring in me. Still to this day when I have a bunch of nervous energy in me I have to do something, anything to relieve the energy. Ninety-nine times out of hundred, I will pull out a book and read. The only thing on me that day was my textbook. I cracked it open and stumbled upon a pretty neat study. I can’t remember who did it or when, but I do remember the gist of it. The study was on “beauty” and what makes one person more physically beautiful than another. Basically what they did study each body part. But they found nothing particularly different. What they found was that each body part was actually incredibly “average”. In other words, the most beautiful people were made up of a combination of “average” parts.
Sexy is imperfection and imperfection is sexy. It’s not a matter of setting easy goals. It’s a matter of setting attainable goals! It’s a matter of setting goals within reach! This is not settling. This is good goal-setting! We learn just as much in little steps as we do when big AHA moments take place. Big, little… it’s really a matter of perception, is it not?
Of course it is. When you do not reach a goal, maybe instead of cursing yourself, you need to relook at your goal and see if it is realistic. If it is, praise yourself for your solid goal-setting skills. If your goal is unattainable, praise yourself too for discovering the error! You could have spent more months failing and what a waste of time that would have been! Amend your goal and move on.
So is my goal of writing one blog per week realistic. Yes. It’s a darn good goal. I think I’ll add one more exception to it. If I miss a week, and I’m not on vacation, then I will consider myself an imperfect, sexy blog writer.
Until next time,
Resume Writer and HR Pro
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